What Not to Do After a Breakup

1. Don’t drunk call  or leave a drunken angry voicemail. Instead arrange a meeting and talk in person if you need to speak to him/her.

2. Don’t sit around and mope for weeks. Instead do something that you enjoy to get your mind of your heartache.

3. Don’t deny that the relationship is over. Instead accept that it’s over and move on.

4. Don’t abuse alcohol , drug. Instead work out, working out makes you feel better.

5. Don’t  post about your emotions on facebook\twitter\tumblr. Instead find a good friend to vent to.

6. Don’t try to be friends right away. Instead  give yourself time to forgive and forget.

7.  Impulsive make-over. Do go get your hair or  get a ridiculous tattoo that you will regret later.

8. Don’t stop taking care of yourself.

9. Don’t keep  remnants of the relationship around.

10.  Don’t look for a new person right away.

Break ups are hard.  Allow yourself the time to mourn. Surround yourself with friends who love you. It’s acceptable to be hurt,angry, sad or humiliated.  Experiencing  negative emotions are a part of life and that is the only way we grow as a person. It also teach you to appreciate the things you have in life.  Learn what you can learn from the relationship that ended and move forward.

“You have to forgive to forget, and forget, to feel again.”

Get More Done TODAY

The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.
– Vince Lombardi

Spring  break is almost here and life seems to be getting busier  and busier and you can’t figure how to get it all accomplished. With Twitter, Facebook, Instagram it is getting harder and harder to focus on what really matters. The work you have to do slowly goes to the end of your to do list.

Here is some tips to keep yourself motivated  through the midterm slum, so that you can have stress-free spring break.

• Schedule your time well.
• Do not start by checking e-mails, voice messages or social media feeds. GO straight to work
• Do the task you don’t want to do first.
• Block yourself from any distracting site for couple hours using tools such as SelfControl
• Find a location that is private.
• Focus your attention on one task at a time
• Get organized. Have a to do list.
• Stop saying I will do it now and just do it.
• Create a reward system for yourself.
• Have snack on hand.
• Get motivated.
• Get it done.

 

Don’ts of Relationship

By Oby G and Rachel I

1. Don’t start the relationship off with an ultimatum. You can’t make a person change unless they want to. By forcing them to choose between you and something they love.  If it does not end the relationship from the start it will end it later on in the road.
2. Don’t expect the other person to be a mind reader- the other person can’t tell what is on your mind therefore say what you want. A relationship should always have an open communication.
3. Don’t give them your Facebook/twitter/ or Instagram password because if you have a bad break up shit will go down.
4.  Don’t share too much personal drama too early in the relationship: motives for this are probably not from a good place and let’s be honest, no one wants to hear about your ex’s.
5. Don’t forget you own life.  You had other friends when you started dating them make sure to also maintain those relationships. If something bad happens you want to know have people you can lean on. The person should never become your world.

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30 Reasons He Didn’t Call You Back

Disclaimer : These are generalization  we are  not saying that all guys or girls do this  however some do all and some don’t.  Enjoy!

1. You played “stupid” too well
2. He  gave you his number to be polite.
3.  You looked like “hooker” on the first date.
4.  You told him you aren’t looking for anything serious (he is).
5. You told him you are looking for something serious (he is not).
6.  He is a  serial dater.
7. You were rude to  his friends.
8.  You were not his type
9.  There was no chase…
10.  He looked through your facebook/instagram/twitter and didn’t like what he saw.
11.  You are a wallflower…bored him to death on the date.
12. You are too desperate.
13. He has a girlfriend.
14. He caught you Facebook stalking him
15. You looked too much like the girl who broke his heart.
16. You remind him too much of his mother/sister/aunt.
17. You insulted his line of work and his interest.
18. You were too fake
19. He thought you were a bad kisser.
20. You  were texting  during the entire date.
21. You talked too much about your ex.
22. You are still not over your ex.
23. You have  the mentality that all men are horrible.
24.  You texted him multiply times in row with no replies from him…he thinks you a creepy.
25.  He  lost your number.
26.  You make him wonder if you in it  for his money or him.
27. He found someone better.
28. He got your number when he was drunk.
29. You aren’t happy person.
30. He just not that into you.

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